As a parent, we all know the hardship we go through just to make sure our kids grow up the best way possible. Sometimes, it takes extra patience just to get them to do things that you know will benefit them in the future. We also know how some children just simply don’t have a sense of liking when it comes to schools and academics. This doesn’t automatically mean that they will grow up in the wrong way. Sometimes, there are certain factors we have to consider as to why there is a strong urge to neglect school. To be quite frank, we’ve all been there before. Having the feeling of laziness that makes us want to skip school. There are also instances when it’s not even laziness that drives us to miss school. Sometimes, we want to avoid things like bullies or a mean teacher that gives us the scare. It can be the same for your child. In handling your kids’ refusal to go to school, understanding and openness are the keys. While we may get frustrated over the fact that their refusal to go to school hinders their growth, we cannot deny that this refusal stems from somewhere. It is our duty as parents to determine what and where this is. Here are some tips on how to handle your kid’s refusal to go to school.
1. Ask Why
Most of the time, we tend to hastily draw the conclusion that it is only because they are lazy which is they don’t want to go to school. You would be surprised by the many reasons a child would rather stay at home than go with their classmates. Asking why makes you learn more about their personal life. If there is something wrong going on in class, you get to know, understand, and take the necessary steps needed to make things right. Schools aren’t so friendly and nice the way parents may think they are. Your child could suffer from bullies, or could actually have a difficult time coping up, or a teacher they really want to avoid. The possibilities are endless. This is why it’s important to ask. If your child is suffering from a situation that should never be tolerated, you step up as parents to do something about it. If you’re only going to dismiss these situations as your kid being lazy then it won’t do much good for you and for your child.
2. Be Kind in Your Approach
In situations like these, it is most important to be kind. Be an understanding, patient and loving parent. If you give off the energy that you are not interested in whatever reason they may have for skipping school, children would rather not tell what’s really going on. This is much worse because during times like these, what they need most are their parents to help them out. Not having a figure that offers them guidance often leaves them feeling alone. Especially when they are going through something extremely difficult as a child and as a student. If not acted upon in a kind and gentle way, the problem never steps. This leads to trauma which could be brought by children up to their adult years. Being kind makes them realize that it is okay to be vulnerable and that there is no judgment in your child to parent relationship. As much as it is important to be kind, it is also important to be firm in the things you have to say. The advice you give plays a big part in how the situation will be resolved. If the situation doesn’t call for a parent to go up to the proper authorities, giving the proper advice really lifts the weight off the problem and could possibly make the problem go away.
3. Set a Routine
For children whose sole reason for not going to school is because ‘it’s no fun’ or they’re lazy, making a routine may help them set their priorities straight. One of the reasons why they may prefer to just stay at home rather than go to school is simply that they find it more comfortable, more fun, and more exciting to just stay in the house. This is normal because, at home, there are no strict timelines to be followed. As opposed to school, where a specific time is set for certain activities. There is only a set time to play around, and there is also a set time to listen to the teacher. In school, they don’t get to relax the same way as being home. This only proves the importance of instilling the proper mindset in children. One way we can do this is to set a routine for them. For example, also giving a set of time to nap, to eat, and to play at home. This gives them the impression that set routines are normal and they can also be fun.
4. Be Active with Your Kids’ Performance In School
It is crucial to engage with the institutions involved in your child’s overall growth. Talk to the teacher, see why your child is acting a certain way. Getting a teacher’s point of view may actually help a lot in knowing how to deal with your kid. They get to give you a brief overview of your child’s performance giving you insights on where they can improve and what strengths they have. At the same time, you get to establish a relationship with the institution that makes you work hand-in-hand in helping your kid. The teacher can also tell you if there are any instances in class where you may be concerned such as bullying or whatnot. This is if your child is not comfortable sharing with you what they go through on an everyday basis. If the matters are worse or there is a need to call for professional help, the teachers may also give you that advice which may be easier for you to assess your kid.
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